My mother tells me all the time, "Pick your battles, if it won't matter tomorrow, it probably doesn't really matter right now." And you know, she's right!!! (I know, I know, I just agreed my mother was right, I guess that means I have officially outgrown my teenage rebel era.) But, really, she is right. Just to give you some examples, and then I'm sure you can find all kinds of way to put this idea into practice.
Occasion #1 ~ I decided to clean out the fridge while the baby was awake. So I knew going into it that I would have to stay calm. (Sorry, Fly Lady, when I start something I have to finish it, I can't just work for 15 minutes at a time on a project, like you. I'm trying, really I am) At first all was well, I started her out playing in the floor beside me and she kept herself quite busy for sometime. But as I started to bleach the shelfs, she started to notice all the bottles of different sauces and such on the floor and counter. So she picked up the ranch dressing and started to put it back in the fridge. I told her no, that Mommy needed to finish first and then she could help me put all the food back away. So she obeyed and laid the ranch dressing back down, however the paper label caught her attention and she saw that it was like a sticker. She started to peel it off little by little. Now, if you know anything about me, you know that I like everything just so, so. The milk always sits on the same self on the right. All of my rugs must not be messed up and must be even. Anyway, you get the picture. So it took every ounce of will power I had not to tell her no, because in all honesty, what was it going to hurt? I would know tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that, that the bottle with white stuff in it was ranch dressing. And it would keep her busy long enough to let me finish my chore at hand. And she is old enough to pick up her own mess, so when she was finished I made sure she threw away all of her trash, so for a lesson, she realized she couldn't make a mess like that and not clean it up.
Occasion #2 ~ I told you a little bit in the last post about how she loves to be in the kitchen. And how, this can if I let it, get under my skin very quickly. She loves to rinse the dishes, while I wash. I would love to just hurry and wash them and move on to the next thing, but I must continually tell myself, it's a great learning tool for both her and I. Yes, sometimes, after she's rinsed a few things, she grabs a cup that is already clean and wants to play in the water with it and I cringe thinking that cup is already clean, but I have to stop myself and say, really what is she hurting? Nothing! She's playing with clean water and she loves standing by my side "helping" me. It definitely teaches me patience and that everything doesn't have to go in a certain order like it does in my head.
Occasion #3 ~ Giving up the high chair was definitely a battle for me! I wanted the baby to stay in the high chair for a little while longer, because it's much easier to clean up the tray than the whole floor around her chair. But she is very independent, as you can already tell, and wanted to be just like Bubby and Sissy! So I gritted my teeth and started letting her sit at the table in a "big" chair.
Now, like I've said before, I'm not saying give into bad behavior. Do not allow hitting, biting, throwing tantrums, dilerberate disobeying, backtalking, etc. to go unpunished. However, take a good look at yourself and if you are getting annoyed by little things, that really won't matter tomorrow. Trust me, if you are, I completely understand how you feel!!! But that still doesn't make it right. And we are to continually be trying to become more and more like Christ. So, today, remember to ask yourself, Will this really matter tomorrow?
I hope this encourages you today!!! And have a blessed day!!!